An essay written in the form of a letter. The recipient is perhaps a stranger, acquaintance, or public figure who's written an ignorant polemic of their own about transgender people or gender generally, and has received backlash for it and is now complaining that they've been "canceled." The letter is written to an indignant and singular "you," but we all benefit from reading it, as a way to shore up our own arguments against TERFs and as fodder for our own critical thinking. It's long, engaging, deeply smart, and goes far beyond engaging with the ignorance of the day, arguing instead a utopian vision of what society could be if it were free from gendered violence.